Ha Ha Ha. The joke is on me. I just read my last post and I said that every week we resolve one issue just to have a new one emerge. I should have kept my big mouth shut. Yes that's right, we have just entered into the wonderful world of lying. Meghan is now lying. And she is not a very good liar.
She lies about anything that she thinks she is going to get in trouble for. Today she slammed a door. She knows she is not supposed to slam doors. So I asked her- "Did you slam that door?" and she looked me right in the eye and said "No." She did do it. I saw her do it. The boys saw her do it. I tried to tell her that she was not in trouble for slamming the door but she was in trouble for lying. Not easy.
Saturday she dumped out all the dog food all over the kitchen floor and in the dog's water bowl. Of course it was her. She was feeding the dogs, Tom walked out of the room for 2 minutes, came back and there it was. So he called her in and asked her if she did it. She said no, it was Christian. Tom called in Christian and asked him. He promptly laughed and said no way, he wouldn't be that dumb to leave the kitchen looking like that. Besides, he had an alibi. So Tom asked her again and she pointed at Christian and said Christian did it. She lied to Tom's face, accused Christian - in front of him. Again, Tom tried to explain that she wasn't in trouble for the mess, just for the lying. We are trying, she's still lying.
She had no qualms about lying about Christian in front of him. The only thing we can think of is maybe in the orphanage they survived by blaming things on the other kids. Here we know Christian wouldn't lie about the dog mess. So of course we don't take her word for it. However, maybe in the orphanage all the kids were so unreliable the workers didn't know who's word to take so passing the blame worked. Who knows.
We have quite a lot of experience with lying with our older boys. We have learned not to ask them if they did something that we know they did...in other words, don't give them the opportunity to lie whenever possible. It's hard, though...they are now teens, and the lack of trust is a very difficult thing for me to handle. Hang in there!
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